Have you ever wanted to do or buy something so bad, because you loved it, but someone encouraged you not to because “they would never do that?”

I am pretty sure we have all witnessed this or probably even done it a time or two.

However, when planning your big day, I highly encourage “blocking out the haters”!!!!!

Your wedding day is simply not the day to be a “people pleaser”. You should be planning your day, your way! Often times couples tend to look for assistance from friends, family members, or couples who have had a wedding before and never really take into consideration if their advice will go hand-in-hand with their vision.

Unsolicited Wedding advice, even with good intent, can drive you crazy and want to give up the idea of even having a wedding that people can attend and just elope. To avoid going off the rails or hurting anyones feelings here are 10 unique ways to ignore unsolicited wedding advice.

Keep it to yourself

Sometimes its best to keep your ideas to yourself to avoid anyone clouding your judegements. Remember, it’s your day so it should be your way. Allowing people into your thoughts especially about something that gets you excited you’ll want to be sure to be around the right company that can encourage and support you in anything that you want for your special day.

Have a plan B

if someone gives you advice on your wedding day, there are a mix of emotions you can feel. If the advice given turns you off from your current ideas create a plan B. Your plan B will help refresh your thoughts and starting all over toward a new idea that will be even better than the first will take the individual who made the suggestion by storm.

Do not commit

If someone gives you advice do not make a commitment to their suggestions. Simply just take the suggestion respectfully and honor what you really want for your big day. If the advice is good, take it into consideration.

Be Vague

When receiving unsolicited wedding advice try not to say too much. Allowing people to just talk and just listening will be a great way to avoid hurting anyones feelings or getting into a disagreement.

Change the subject

Try changing the mood of the conversation to probably something not even wedding oriented. The person giving the advice may or may not catch on to the topic switch, either way it will definitely be respected.

Vendor Recommendations

A great way to play it safe for not obliging by someone’s wedding advice is declining based off your vendor recommendations. Simply just tell them your vendor recommended you to do the opposite of what they suggested and what the topic change.

Be Honest

It’s okay to be honest with people about wedding desires, and it’s also okay to decline advice respectfully. If anyone gets upset, maybe they should reconsider attending the event if they really do not care about your wants or feelings toward your special day.

Consider it

Some advice is actually good advice and before ruling it out I think its safe to say you can consider some recommendations. As long they match your dream wedding aesthetics

Set Boundaries

Before even chatting with friends and family members about your wedding ideas, set firm boundaries so they know what topics are off limits ahead of time.

Focus on Your Wants

Put yourself first! Make a decision on what you and your fiancé really want prior to discussing ideas with anyone else. Once you know exactly what you want, know one can sway your mind.